Summary Within a day he had realised that he had to survive, so he started expressing with words, Goraya
LAHORE: (Web Desk) – The bloggers who had gone missing early last month, returned to their homes as suspiciously as they had gone missing. However, they have opened their lips now finally about how they felt and what changed in their lives after their kidnappings.
Ahmad Waqass Goraya has on Thursday expressed the trauma his son and he had to go through when he went missing. In a Facebook post, Goraya told that his son had started speaking and had become quite aggressive after his kidnapping. He said that though he has returned now, the changes in his son’s behaviour and attitude may have become permanent as hardly any of the new habits he developed during Goraya’s missing has changed.
Here is what Goraya wrote on Facebook:
What happens to children of a missing person - A glimpse
Upon release, I was eagerly waiting to talk to my son; missed his gibberish a lot. That kept me alive at night. I used to hear his voice, saying Papa nain aey? (Papa didn t come?).
He is going to be 3 in March. He used to talk a lot, but gibberish.
Upon release, I got to know that he had left two days ago on 25th and was in Nl. I called my wife and asked her to pass phone to Arastoo. A Kid picked the phone and started talking to me.
“Hello Papa ...Hello Papa ... Papa A gaya ... (Papa has come) ... Papa A jao please ... (Papa please come) ... Papa kesey ho? (Papa, how are you?)”. And then said, Allah Hafiz (Goodbye).
I asked my wife who was this kid and told her to call Arastoo. She told me that it was Arastoo talking to me and he has started talking. Then I discussed it with Mesha. She told me he has been speaking since I left.
The kid who was uttering gibberish was now talking loud and clear. I still couldn t believe that it was my son.
Friends and fellows with young children know that parents understand every signal of their children. The children don t really need to express. We parents understand each signal which they develop from birth. But upon my kidnapping, no one was around, as his mother was in Netherlands. He had no one around who could understand his signals, his gibberish and his needs.
Within a day, he had realised that he had to survive. So he started expressing with words and immediate sentences were like Roti Khani (I want to eat Bread) ... Paani Peena (I want to drink to drink water) ... Poti ki ... ( I have pooped) etc
He was fully in survival mode.
The kid who was not just speaking but crying, yelling at others, throwing things - anything which he could get hold of - and slapping everyone; all those things had never been part of his character. He was a calm kid with no such habits. His whole persona had changed.
He used to sleep 12 hours at night, and after my kidnapping he was not sleeping; crying at night.
Now after one week of my return, it is still the same. Sleep has improved. The rest of the habits like yelling, throwing things, slapping us, and even blackmailing us are still the same. I believe it will take him years to come out of that trauma and be the Arastoo he was.
I still miss my baby boy, the baby that I had left and also enjoy the new Arastoo at the same time.
